The Readers and Writers behind Electronic Mail

 

Sally Abolrous


INTRODUCTION
(top)

As electronic mail replaces face-to-face communication in many work environments, a thorough analysis of this evolving medium and its impact on communication is necessary. In many workplaces, telephone calls and knocks on doors have dramatically decreased in frequency, but the number of emails that circulate through one’s inbox is continuing to increase. Yet, our understanding of this new medium and how it is being used is limited. Some scholars argue that email has many of the characteristics of speech; some argue that it has the same characteristics as writing, while others argue that it is a completely new genre of communication.

 

In order to understand other mediums, such as writing and speech, researchers have attempted to first understand the writers or speakers and readers or listeners who are involved in and shape written and oral communication. Therefore, to understand the medium of electronic mail, it is also important to identify and analyze the characters involved—the senders and receivers of email and the personas they adopt when writing or reading email.

 

In this paper, I will begin with a background on some theories and models that have been developed as an attempt to understand written and oral communication. I will then look at some specific characteristics of the language of email, and from those, identify the senders and receivers involved, their expectations, and the personas that they adopt. Through this analysis, I hope to show that the senders and receivers of electronic mail are more similar to speakers and listeners than writers and readers of formal writing. This is due to the fact that email itself is closer to the medium of speech than it is to writing, as evidenced by some of its qualities. At the same time, email has some evolving qualities that belong to neither medium.



WRITERS AND READERS - A BACKGROUND (top)

In an attempt to understand two-way communication, whether written or spoken, many theories have been developed to describe the writer and reader relationship with the text. Most of these theories are based on Roman Jakobsen’s model of the communication process, which shows the six factors involved in verbal communication.

 

                                                          Context

Addresser      __________________Message   _________________   Addressee

                                                          Contact

                                                          Code

 

The model above shows the addresser as the writer, speaker, or sender of information (message) and the addressee as the reader, listener or receiver of information. The other factors involved in sending the message are the context (point of reference), the code (language), and the contact (physical channel).

 

Other scholars have theorized about the relationships between addressers, addressees and text. Walker Gibson developed a model which implies that there are other factors involved in communication: a fictitious writer and a mock reader.

 

Writer [Fictitious Writer______TEXT_______Mock Reader] Reader

 

Gibson suggests that the writer takes on a persona to communicate with the readers. The real writer is in disguise behind that persona and generally never appears in the text.  Likewise, readers also take on roles that are usually imbedded in the text for them with the freedom to accept or reject. These fictitious personas are the ones who closely interact with the text, not the actual writers and readers. “A bad book,” Gibson explains, “is a book in whose mock reader we discover a person we refuse to become, a mask we refuse to put on, a role we will not play” (268).

 

Similarly, Walter Ong also discusses the mock writers and readers of verbal communication. However, Ong goes beyond discussing written text; he makes a distinction between writers and speakers, and readers and listeners. He claims that “the writer’s mask and reader’s are less removable than those of the oral communicator and his hearer” (171). This is due to the fact that a speaker is usually addressing his audience, his listeners, directly or face-to-face, while a writer’s audience is further away. It is therefore easier for the writer to stay in disguise as a fictitious writer and the reader to continue playing his or her role. Ong’s suggested relationship between physical proximity and the fixedness of a communicator’s mask may be true with the mediums of writing and speech, but does not hold true with the medium of email. Senders and Receivers of email are much like readers and writers of text in terms of proximity, but the masks they wear are more easily removed, more so than those of the writers and readers or even speakers and listeners.

 

While the mediums of formal writing and speech have been investigated, the medium of email has not. The types of personas that senders and receivers of email adopt have not been explored. Because email has inherited traits from both formal writing and speech, the senders and receivers of email have adopted traits from both mediums but also developed their own. An email writer has a different mock reader in mind than a writer of a formal report or a speaker. Likewise, the actual readers of email are also different from readers of formal reports or listeners of speeches and have different expectations from the writers. To investigate these emerging personas, I will look for patterns in the language and mechanics of email, and through them, identify the characters hiding behind the masks, their motivations, and their expectations.

 

For our purposes, we will refer to the fictitious writer/speaker of email as a fictitious sender and the mock reader/hearer as a mock receiver. That way, we can avoid using the terms speaker/hearer and writer/reader which are most associated with of the mediums of speech and writing.


THE LANGUAGE OF EMAIL (top)

In order to understand the senders and receivers of electronic mail and the roles that they play, an investigation of the language used in email is essential. Some of the characteristics of email language that differentiate it from other mediums are that it is informal and conversational, direct and concise, unedited, and emotional. Although some of these qualities are borrowed from writing or speech, others are new qualities that are specific to the medium of email. By investigating these characteristics, the personas of the senders and receivers embedded in the text can become apparent.

 

Informal and conversational

Compared to formal writing, email can be described as informal and conversational. Lan describes it as being “shaped by communicative needs and by usage, not rigid rules. It is organic, evolving and dynamic...” (54). My observations of email have led me to conclude that a lot of email resembles people’s unedited thought processes.

 

Senders of email are usually unconcerned with sentence structure or transitions between ideas; As a result, they are more likely to write as they talk, rather than as they would write a paper or a report. They are more likely to jump from idea to idea without changing paragraphs or giving the receiver an overview of what they will discuss. The example below is from a student (whom I never met) who emailed me for an add code to a technical writing class that I am teaching.

 

Hi my name is [sender’s name] and I am trying to get into you TC class at 11:30 but I need an add code I was wondering if you had those and if I could get one of those.  Thank you.

 

In the example above, many elements contribute to the informality of this email. The sender used an informal greeting—a simple “Hi” without the name of the person to whom it is addressed. This type of greeting is usually found in speech, but not in formal writing. Furthermore, the sender did not bother to properly punctuate his sentences, resulting in a run-on sentence. He introduced his name at the beginning of the email but did not include a signature at the end. This is also a quality of speech since we usually introduce ourselves up front and do not repeat that information again at the end of the conversation. Additionally, the sender did not take the time to adopt a persona; he is being his true self without trying to make a good impression on the Technical Writing teacher by at least eliminating the grammatical and mechanical mistakes from his writing. His mock receiver, therefore, is not judgmental and is more understanding than the reader of his formal reports.

 

Another element that contributes to the conversational quality of email is the frequent use of speech tokens such as: huh, blah, wow, he he, duh, oh, umm and hmm. These tokens are clearly a characteristic of speech; however, senders frequently use them in email to indicate patterns of thought. As a result, email at times sounds more like the sender’s unedited internal thought process, rather than organized thoughts that are suitable for formal writing. The example below clearly illustrates that.

 

Hmm, my email client doesn't read html, I'll have to pipe it to another program.

Oh no!  I finally got on a search engine and all of my links to my projects are broken!  Ahhh!  Oh well.  Guess it's time to spend some time in html-land.

                                                

The example above can be described as a one-sided conversation. The sender is clearly not trying to adopt a certain persona but allowing herself to speak freely of her thoughts. These characteristics of email suggest that the sender’s fictional persona closely resembles that of the actual sender. At the same time, the sender’s view of his or her mock receiver is of one who is accustomed to this medium of communication, its informality and its unorganized content, and is less critical and more understanding than a mock reader of formal writing.

 

Direct and Concise

Compared to speech, email is considered more direct and concise. If a sender’s intent is to ask a question, an email may only contain the question without the addition of a greeting or a closing. If the intent is to make a comment, an email may be as short as a one-word comment. If the intent is to convey an emotion, an email with only a smiley face may be sent to the receiver. This characteristic of email is more related to formal writing than speech, which in many cases, is written with the objective to be as clear and direct as possible. However, even in formal writing, writers usually include courtesy phrases, or at least greetings and closings in addition to the information that they are trying to send. In email however, senders are less concerned with such formalities and are more concerned with conciseness. Likewise, receivers expect directness and conciseness.

 

A quality of email that makes it seem more concise and direct is the liberal use of abbreviations.

 

 hey sis call em ok!!!!!! r u busy!? k well see ya!

 SHIMO

 

In the short email above, the sender uses many abbreviations such as: sis for sister, r for are, u for you, and k for okay. These abbreviations, along with many others, are often used in emails. The unintentional message that gets sent along with the sender’s message is that the sender is trying to be concise and trying to communicate his or her idea quickly and efficiently (in the least amount of letters possible). Notice, however, that these abbreviations have been borrowed from spoken language. They are written as they are normally spoken as an attempt from the sender to create the experience of a conversation.

 

Other types of abbreviations used in emails are ones that have been developed and agreed upon by email users and are specific to the medium of email. Some were developed as a means to communicate ideas and emotions that are difficult to explain; others are used as a tool for efficiency and conciseness. Some examples of frequently used and agreed upon abbreviations are listed below:

 

Lol – Laughing out loud

Rofol – Rolling on the floor laughing out loud

Eom – End of message

Btw - By the way

 

The use of abbreviations is also a common feature of both formal writing and speech. Within discourse communities, members develop their own abbreviations and specialized vocabulary. In this case, the users of email have developed their own discourse community with their own medium-specific language. Members of the email discourse community are expected to be familiar with and use this new language as a means of making email more concise, informal and conversational. Therefore, to use these abbreviations is to accept that role (of either a sender or a receiver) that has been defined by the community.

 

Unedited

Closely related to the above characteristics, this characteristic of email gives it much of the qualities of speech. While some senders edit their messages before sending them out, most do not. During her studies of the characteristics of email, Baron observed that “emails typically undergo little or no editing” (50). Receivers of email messages are accustomed to unedited text and therefore are less judgmental than the readers of formal writing. The example below is an email from one of my students.

 

im trying to remember if i was sceduled for a 10:45 conference or an 11:45 one. i think it was 10:45, though this doesnt make sense as we dont normally have class until 11:30.

Thanks,
Mike

 

The example above clearly illustrates that the sender of this message did not run it through a spell-checker or care to review it for misspellings and grammatical errors. He did not care to capitalize the letters that need capitalization or use apostrophes where needed. The message appears to be the sender’s unedited thought process, which he spontaneously wrote down and sent. His mock receiver, although a technical writing teacher, does not care about the grammar or mechanics and does not expect him to edit his message or take time formulating it. However, she expects him to be direct and concise.

 

As the real receiver, as opposed to a mock receiver of email, I notice grammatical mistakes and misspellings but am more tolerant towards them than I would if the student was turning in a formal paper. In that sense, I adopt the role of the mock receiver that is embedded in the text for me, but that role very closely resembles the real me. Similarly, the sender who did not carefully edit his email before sending it to his technical writing teacher is playing a role, which very closely resembles the real him. This characteristic of email is one that has been adopted from speech, not formal writing. And because of that, the masks of the senders and receivers are easily removed and the personas that hide behind the masks are not out of sight.

 

“Emotional”

Email is also characterized as a medium which easily evokes emotions. Unlike speech, where the hearer can rely on contextual cues and non-verbal communication to gather the speaker’s intent, there is no context in email. The sender’s tone, whether angry, happy, disappointed, or upset, cannot be clearly communicated due to the lack of context. Senders then are usually aware that whatever they say can be misinterpreted; and to avoid that, they use emoticons (which are shown below) to indicate their mood to the receivers. In doing that, senders embed roles in the text for their mock receivers to play—roles that dismiss insults if a wink emoticon is present or roles that laugh at not-so-funny jokes if a smiley emoticon is present. While emoticons were invented by senders using simple keyboard strokes to create shapes such as ;) and J and L, email software has now implemented emoticons for all types of emotions and occasions (see figures 1 and 2 below).

 

Figure 2. An example of emoticons from

MSN Messenger.

Figure 1. An example of emoticons from

 Microsoft Hotmail.

 

 

The use of emoticons in email creates a context for the text. Senders take the non-verbal and contextual elements present in speech and face-to-face communication and add them to a medium that was once much like writing. With the use of emoticons, the sender’s role becomes much like the actual sender because it removes the ambiguity from the text, removes the sender’s mask, and reveals the sender’s true emotions. However, in some cases, emoticons only add to the ambiguity of text. For example, if they are being used as a tool of sarcasm, the receiver may not interpret them as such. Nevertheless, emoticons, if successful, bring the real sender closer to the fictional sender and make written text more like speech by adding context and emotion to it.



CONCLUSION (top)

At the beginning of the paper, I suggested that some scholars view email as a medium that is a hybrid of speech and writing, others view it as a form of speech or writing, and some view it as its own genre. In this paper, I have focused on its similarities to and differences from these other mediums by the characteristics of its language and its users. Although email is clearly more related to speech than it is to writing, many of its qualities suggest that it is evolving into a new genre. The senders and receivers of email are shaping it and developing standards to fit their needs. Because of the dynamic nature of email, senders and receivers are finding ways to incorporate useful qualities of writing (i.e. conciseness) and useful qualities of speech (i.e. informality) into it in order to make it an effective and efficient medium. 

 

The development of standards and rules to govern behavior give the email medium the character of a discourse community. In it, senders and receivers behave alike. They have community-specific terms, abbreviations and guidelines. While researching for this paper, I came across several Websites that offer tips on the etiquette of email. Some of the suggestions included the following:

o        Be conservative in what you send and liberal in what you receive.

o        Messages should be concise and to the point.

o        Limit cc’s to those with a need to know.

(From: IEEE email netiquette guidelines, http://eleccomm.ieee.org/email-netiquette.shtml)

The need for such guidelines suggests that the medium of email is new, unfamiliar, and although has many of the qualities of speech and writing, is still different enough from them that their rules and guidelines do not apply. The users of email are working for autonomy to distinguish themselves from other mediums, or other discourse communities.

 

Because of email’s directness and informality, the senders’ and receivers’ masks are not as fixed as they are within other mediums—they are more easily removed.  In writing, the physical distance between the writer and the reader allows writers to completely remove themselves from the text and adopt fictional personas. On the other hand, because of the close proximity of the speakers to their listeners, speakers are sometimes reserved and must behave in an acceptable manner and be considerate of the listeners’ responses. However, in the medium of email, Baron points out that studies show that “ by reducing visible and auditory social cues about interlocutors, email enables participants to interact in a less constrained way than when face-to-face”(147). This indicates that the senders and receivers of electronic mail resemble the actual senders and receivers; they are less reserved, more open and straightforward than both speakers and writers. As the email medium continues to evolve and continues to find ways to overcome communication challenges (such as the level of context using emoticons), the senders and receivers of email will continue to change, perhaps in a direction further away from both writers and speakers.


WORKS CITED (top)

1.      Baron, N. (1998). Letters by phone or speech by other means: the linguistics of email. Language and Communication, 18, 133-170.

2.      Baron, N. (1998). Writing in the Age of Email: the Impact of Ideology vs. Technology. Visible Language, 32 (1). 35-53.

3.      Gibson, W. (1950). Authors, speakers, readers, and mock readers. College English, 11, 265-269.

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6.      Ong, W.S.J. (1975). The writer’s audience is always a fiction. PMLA, 90, 9-21.

 

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